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hunter

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Mon Sep 22, 2025, 10:16 PM Monday

Are you autistic? I am. [View all]

Autism almost killed me in adolescence and it's the root cause of all my PTSD and most of my scars, both physical and mental.

My inability to "read" people, and propensity to say whatever pops into my head, has gotten me into a lot of trouble. I've told of some of my experiences as amusing stories here on DU, but leave out most of the violence.

I quit high school at sixteen because I was always in trouble. I was great at multiple choice exams which got me into college, from which I was "asked" to take time off twice, the first time for fighting with a teaching assistant, among other things. This teaching assistant was probably as autistic as I was but a little more prone to reacting violently. I took the hit and took the time out because I was an undergraduate.

It took me nine years to graduate. I have the equivalent of a minor in English but the chair of the English Department refused to sign off on it. Fully exasperated with me, she'd previously told me I write like an ESL student with a head injury. A dean of the college did sign off on it, but he only wanted to be rid of me and politely said so.

My grandfather, an engineer for the Apollo Project, was similarly afflicted. His personal life was always a flaming catastrophe, his relationships with colleagues often tense.

I can easily imagine the horror my life would have been if I'd had more restricted verbal abilities, obsessions that were not useful to society, even greater klutziness, a complete inability to write, and much less awareness of how others think. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

Oh, and people, even doctors, blamed my mother for my disabilities. This only reinforced their opinions of her when she'd turn into a stone cold bitch on them. My mother was my greatest defender. (And she never took any Tylenol...)

My form of autism is clearly inherited from my dad's side of the family. He had cousins who were not functional in ordinary society, hidden away in apartments the family paid for, sometimes employed by people who accepted their severe limitations.

Kennedy is a flaming pile of shit. If there are environmental causes of autism the only rational way to discern them is through hard core science. Otherwise people are just making shit up. Kennedy is making shit up and this misinformation will harm people.

Yes, people can be on the autistic spectrum and sail easily through life regarding it as a simple personality quirk that shouldn't be discriminated against. That does nothing to help those with more severe difficulties.

I wrote this in response to a thread that has since been deleted.

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Are you autistic? I am. [View all] hunter Monday OP
This was an excellent read and insightful. Thank you. chowder66 Monday #1
KNR and bookmarking. niyad 10 hrs ago #66
Probably. canetoad Monday #2
Recommended. H2O Man Monday #3
DURec leftstreet Monday #4
Yes Timewas Monday #5
This is such a hateful, ignorant, regressive period in history... hlthe2b Monday #6
Thank you for sharing your story mr715 Monday #7
Thank you for writing this. milestogo Monday #8
Great post Wild blueberry Monday #9
Thank you mountain grammy Monday #10
I am, too, and I feel for you EnergizedLib Monday #11
Yes Oneironaut Monday #12
Hunter, thank you for sharing your experience Ilikepurple Monday #13
Thank you for this. yardwork Monday #14
K&R mvd Monday #15
This message was self-deleted by its author Prairie_Seagull 18 hrs ago #50
I have Asperger's - my inability to read ppl led me to Psy. alittlelark Monday #16
I'm an Asp. ChazInAz 17 hrs ago #55
How did you overcome writing "like an ESL student with a head injury?" Sogo Monday #17
I started college as an engineering major and switched to Biology... hunter Monday #22
I suspect I may be on the spectrum. area51 Monday #18
Thank you for every bit of that and sharing it here. Maru Kitteh Monday #19
The kids told me that I am on the spectrum. Grolph_ Monday #20
For what it's worth, I think your writing is excellent. 3Hotdogs Monday #21
Very insightful, hunter... slightlv Monday #23
Covid DID its best, for now. vanlassie Monday #24
Sharing your story and experience has done us all a real service. Thanks ❤️ MLAA Monday #25
Apparently me too. KentuckyWoman Monday #26
Sincerely thank you for this Sympthsical Monday #27
Excellent. Thanks. I'm definitely on several spectrums. Fortunate to have found my way. Need more for Silent Type Monday #28
I am not, but I love someone who is. FM123 Yesterday #29
Thank you posting proud patriot Yesterday #30
You write very well for someone who is 'autistic'. Jack Valentino Yesterday #31
RFK jr is a total dick and a nasty moron. Would be nice to go back a couple of years when I didn't know he existed. Dave Bowman Yesterday #32
In the end, we're all, each, a bag of tricks... BurnDoubt Yesterday #33
Yes. meadowlander Yesterday #34
Thank you for this, meadowlander Hekate Yesterday #37
I am impressed by your strength Easterncedar Yesterday #40
This description is so helpful Alice Kramden 21 hrs ago #41
Thank you for posting this LetMyPeopleVote 18 hrs ago #53
Thank you for sharing meadowlander Ilikepurple 6 hrs ago #71
Excellent post. markodochartaigh Yesterday #35
Thank you for teaching us, hunter. I remember the books that blamed "refrigerator mothers" Hekate Yesterday #36
I gather most of us are, to some extent Oeditpus Rex Yesterday #38
My experience is similar to yours Mossfern 18 hrs ago #49
My mom had it both ways Oeditpus Rex 5 hrs ago #72
Thank you dearly, hunter, for sharing your experiences and perspective. It is laudable and helpful KitFox Yesterday #39
This is a wise and helpful thread Alice Kramden 21 hrs ago #42
Raises hand. nt. druidity33 20 hrs ago #43
Autism Mr.Bee 19 hrs ago #44
K&R spanone 19 hrs ago #45
Yep!...along with most of my family... MiHale 18 hrs ago #46
Thank you for sharing your story, hunter Clouds Passing 18 hrs ago #47
Probably Lithos 18 hrs ago #48
I put my parents through hell and I was completely oblivious to that. hunter 15 hrs ago #59
Thank you for your story LetMyPeopleVote 18 hrs ago #51
Pretty sure I am. no_hypocrisy 18 hrs ago #52
High functioning autism is in our family, so I'm very familiar with it. I have a cousin whose parents didn't understand Martin68 18 hrs ago #54
Thank you for sharing your life here. You are a fantastic writer. 1WorldHope 16 hrs ago #56
Thank you for posting--glad autism is being discussed now by people with lived experience. Timeflyer 16 hrs ago #57
This sounds just like my son, but currently he only has a diagnosis of ADHD LT Barclay 15 hrs ago #58
One of my kids is "on the spectrum" and now a successful adult. hunter 14 hrs ago #60
Thanks anyway. LT Barclay 7 hrs ago #70
Post removed Post removed 14 hrs ago #61
probably AllaN01Bear 13 hrs ago #62
My daughter is. Pacifist Patriot 13 hrs ago #63
There are strong upsides to having autistic friends PurgedVoter 13 hrs ago #64
terribly functional so not considered. pansypoo53219 12 hrs ago #65
found out I was Aspie when I was about 67 or so..Now 77. LiberalArkie 8 hrs ago #67
Thank you for your honesty -- your voice matters youssef5070 7 hrs ago #68
I think we are all born and live in our own world for as long as possible. Aussie105 7 hrs ago #69
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