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markie

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131. you won't need luck...

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Tue Mar 10, 2026, 04:52 PM

Mar 10

enjoy the delight of that initial excitement...

when my husband died 5 years ago, I said I was going to go live in the woods and never concern myself with relationships... well, I did that for a while, and then when forced to go off the trail, I started writing and then I discovered I wanted to communicate with others...

When my current partner lost his wife 4+ years ago, he was lost and didn't know what he should do... we met online (living 600 miles apart)

I have always said that it is the love that my husband gave me that allows me to love again...

your story makes me remember those first months of meeting the man I now live with...

I would not see it as "dating"... you are making a new friend who may turn out to be more than a friend... whatever way it goes, enjoy the feelings you are enjoying right now and be you!

we definitely want to hear back after the weekend!!!! and tell her hello from all of us- your friends who want you to be happy!

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Not sure if this is where I post this, but here goes: [View all] MarineCombatEngineer Mar 9 OP

Just be yourself is the best advice. NoRethugFriends Mar 9 #1

Quoting a character in a book: be yourself, everyone else is taken. question everything Mar 9 #40

I LOVE that Mira Mar 10 #137

Good luck! Danmel Mar 9 #2

NoRethugFriends is absolutely right! Be yourself. And that includes be honest. CaliforniaPeggy Mar 9 #3

Thank you, MarineCombatEngineer Mar 9 #4

That's the ticket! And by the way, Congrats on your recent Milestone: 18000 posts! ...n/t CaliforniaPeggy Mar 9 #6

Best of luck! hurl Mar 9 #5

I hope you have a wonderful date and you both enjoy each other's company. LoisB Mar 9 #7

wishing you much luck! -eom vanessa_ca Mar 9 #8

Good luck man. Eko Mar 9 #9

Good luck! Hope you have an enjoyable experience. n/t TygrBright Mar 9 #10

Don't think of it as a date! LuckyCharms Mar 9 #11

Just relax and be yourself. sheshe2 Mar 9 #12

Good luck, MarineCombatEngineer. MIButterfly Mar 9 #13

Everything you just said . . . tell her that. Just, tell her. Maru Kitteh Mar 9 #14

Any dating advice I can get is greatly appreciated. MarineCombatEngineer Mar 9 #15

How fun! It sounds like great beginnings. My 88-yr-old mom has an 89-year-old Nixie Mar 9 #16

How sweet malaise Mar 9 #24

".. They sparked.. " That Spark is so important... Cha Mar 10 #104

Hi Cha! ❤️. Yes, it's been a fun thing to see develop. Nixie Mar 10 #138

Aww Nixie ☮️💜 Cha Mar 10 #139

Wish you luck KT2000 Mar 9 #17

Apparently, according to my children and grandchildren, MarineCombatEngineer Mar 9 #19

This reminds me of a Patricia Neal line from the WW2 movie 'In Harm's Way'-- Jack Valentino Mar 9 #50

Not man and 'girl' anymore. nt GenThePerservering Mar 10 #136

Relax, smile just be yourself. Things will go as they should. Srkdqltr Mar 9 #18

Wishing you good luck and a fine time, this weekend! calimary Mar 9 #20

If you can make her consistently laugh, you're 75% there! Enter stage left Mar 9 #21

Have a wonderful time malaise Mar 9 #22

Good luck! Both of you deserve happiness and not to be alone. My unasked for advice, be yourself. surfered Mar 9 #23

Oh, don't kid yourseld, I am asking for advice. MarineCombatEngineer Mar 9 #28

My 2 cents: you are a bright, well rounded chap. Think of it as an opportunity to make a friend Attilatheblond Mar 10 #94

"I think be yourself is the worst advice you can give most people" Skittles Mar 9 #25

Only if one is actually an 'asshole', and is trying to hide that fact from coming out Jack Valentino Mar 9 #54

Myself and, indeed, all of GD canetoad Mar 9 #26

Good luck! Grumpy Old Guy Mar 9 #27

Have a good time! mountain grammy Mar 9 #29

💐🤞🏽 blm Mar 9 #30

Remember that she is in the same Figarosmom Mar 9 #31

Have fun!! FemDemERA Mar 9 #32

Well, Dan Mar 9 #33

REAL MEN take responsibility for birth control upon THEMSELVES, Jack Valentino Mar 9 #59

Good point Dan Mar 9 #75

That sounds delightful! Totally Tunsie Mar 9 #34

No, she's never heard of DU and she has zero interest in social media. nt MarineCombatEngineer Mar 9 #67

Relax and enjoy yourself! BeneteauBum Mar 9 #35

My advice (as a woman in my later years) is try to keep your expectations down to a minimum FakeNoose Mar 9 #36

This is the sweetest post in a long time! Love that your kids and grandkids are in on it, too! Deuxcents Mar 9 #37

How wonderful for you MCE, dare to hope, dare to dream, and dare to try. JMCKUSICK Mar 9 #38

I'm curious. skypilot Mar 9 #39

Go in 2 different cars, split the check if she's amendable and have an exit strategy if needed. MarineCombatEngineer Mar 9 #69

Seems a little extreme to me, too HighFired49 Mar 9 #85

Very good advice, and like I told my daughter and granddaughters, MarineCombatEngineer Mar 9 #86

Best of luck MCE! AloeVera Mar 9 #41

Thank you AloeVera, MarineCombatEngineer Mar 9 #71

Good luck! My best advice (not that you asked) is RussBLib Mar 9 #42

Soldier? SOLDIER? MarineCombatEngineer Mar 9 #73

Haven't you watched the "American President" yet? hamsterjill Mar 9 #43

My wife tells me woman judge on men's shoes also FHRRK1 Mar 9 #56

OMG--- no wonder I get no invitations---! Jack Valentino Mar 9 #57

All the best jfz9580m Mar 9 #44

She finished her first solo with no problems at all, MarineCombatEngineer Mar 9 #76

Good luck on your date MustLoveBeagles Mar 9 #45

Good On You!!!! BurnDoubt Mar 9 #46

OOHRAH!!! COL Mustard Mar 9 #47

life is short. do what makes you happy Takket Mar 9 #48

You will do fine MCE! Irish_Dem Mar 9 #49

Good luck. usedtobedemgurl Mar 9 #51

Relax and enjoy the evening Lifeafter70 Mar 9 #52

You've already had the good luck to meet her. I'm wishing you more. Have a great time! highplainsdem Mar 9 #53

First, anywhere you post is perfect. Go with the gut and with everybody wishing you well. Luck. UTUSN Mar 9 #55

My advice...since you asked... maspaha Mar 9 #58

Did you determine if she's a Dem, or not? Bayard Mar 9 #60

She's a dedicated Dem and, yes, we're having dinner together. nt MarineCombatEngineer Mar 9 #80

She sounds like a keeper! Bayard Mar 10 #119

You are a DU-er - what's not to like? Your head must be screwed on right and she will Marie Marie Mar 9 #61

Very happy for you. Just be you. Joinfortmill Mar 9 #62

Be In The Moment, Not Past, Not Future. 👍🤞 ColoringFool Mar 9 #63

I'm JEALOUS !!! I DON'T have a date for this weekend.... Jack Valentino Mar 9 #64

Be yourself AverageOldGuy Mar 9 #65

Have fun, be real mr715 Mar 9 #66

Good luck. Gore1FL Mar 9 #68

In the book of life kairos12 Mar 9 #70

Best of luck MCE angrychair Mar 9 #72

Good luck! 🍀 ZDU Mar 9 #74

Just be yourself and have fun Bettie Mar 9 #77

I'll pass along my dad's dating advice: LudwigPastorius Mar 9 #78

LOL. MarineCombatEngineer Mar 9 #81

Like others have said, be yourself. Beacool Mar 9 #79

MarneCombatEngineer - you got this. Reading down this thread has left me in smiles and tears. c-rational Mar 9 #82

This whole thread is so damn cool. Permanut Mar 9 #83

And you will get it. MarineCombatEngineer Mar 9 #87

Not wishing you luck. I am wishing you a wonderful evening as you niyad Mar 9 #84

Thank you and I will give a full report, up to a certain point. MarineCombatEngineer Mar 9 #88

Well, naturally. You are, after all, a gentleman! I guess that means no videos??? niyad Mar 10 #89

LOL, no, no videos or...................... nt MarineCombatEngineer Mar 10 #91

Good Luck ChicagoTeamster Mar 10 #90

Ha! Good on ya man! Hey Joe Mar 10 #92

I'm happy for you! summer_in_TX Mar 10 #93

That's wonderful news, best of luck! Talitha Mar 10 #95

She's Portuguese so I'm thinking of taking her into Phoenix to a Portuguese restaurant to dine, MarineCombatEngineer Mar 10 #96

The restaurant sounds nice, I bet she'll enjoy that. Talitha Mar 10 #98

Ha! Best wishes, ED Evolve Dammit Mar 10 #101

Man, I hope you have a great time. Arthur_Frain Mar 10 #97

Good luck MCE! We are all rooting for you to have a nice night out. Ilikepurple Mar 10 #99

It'll be fine Boo1 Mar 10 #100

I am clueless. DFW Mar 10 #102

Have a great time Laurelin Mar 10 #103

Good luck! Enjoy yourself. Scrivener7 Mar 10 #105

My father remarried after my mother's death. NNadir Mar 10 #106

Best of luck! viva la Mar 10 #107

Thanks for sharing orangecrush Mar 10 #108

Is she a Democrat? babylonsister Mar 10 #109

This is wonderful. LisaM Mar 10 #110

Much good luck MCE 🍀 Clouds Passing Mar 10 #111

Good to hear IbogaProject Mar 10 #112

Hang in there Cherokee100 Mar 10 #113

Relax and be natural. If you already clicked when not on a date, you already know the answer. Be yourself. appleannie1 Mar 10 #114

be you... onethatcares Mar 10 #115

Luck! pandr32 Mar 10 #116

Any advice I give you is worth Old Crank Mar 10 #117

What lovely good news! I hope you both fall hopelessly in love! 1WorldHope Mar 10 #118

Best wishes for you to both find companionship and happiness. Moostache Mar 10 #120

Enjoy Tetrachloride Mar 10 #121

Make every day count. Good luck! dalton99a Mar 10 #122

Good luck. bluestarone Mar 10 #123

Just be yourself. Kid Berwyn Mar 10 #124

Well, how long has it been since she's dated? malthaussen Mar 10 #125

Aww, good luck! I hope you both have a wonderful time. 50 Shades Of Blue Mar 10 #126

Well, how'd it go? mr715 Mar 10 #127

It's not until this Saturday. nt MarineCombatEngineer Mar 10 #135

I remember the line from Sleepless in Seattle, HeartsCanHope Mar 10 #128

Have fun, MCE Niagara Mar 10 #129

Just one word Botany Mar 10 #130

you won't need luck... markie Mar 10 #131

Good luck m8! I hope you 2 have a wonderful time! Celerity Mar 10 #132

Finally, a post that makes us smile! Have fun. Vinca Mar 10 #133

I wish you all the happiness in the world popsdenver Mar 10 #134

Just a quick follow up everyone, MarineCombatEngineer Monday #140

Good! I'm glad it went well for you Bettie Monday #141

That is wonderful! Spazito Monday #142

Way to go sir. Relating, communicating, honesty -- good things. Friday's acomin'. George McGovern Yesterday #143

Wish you both the best on your date Heftylefty 18 hrs ago #144

Thanks, it went great, MarineCombatEngineer 8 hrs ago #145