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Disability

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BuelahWitch

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Tue Oct 20, 2015, 11:04 PM Oct 2015

Any other DUers living in a nursing or assisted living facility? [View all]

My "disability" is 4th stage metastatic breast cancer that spread to my left lung, liver and several bones. My walking ability is severely impaired, and I also have had double vision due to cancer at the base of my skull. I was diagnosed in November of last year when I was admitted to the ER after both my legs went out. Since I was living at the top of a third story walk up, and had no family or close friends to care for me, the social worker at the hospital filed SSDI and Medicaid paperwork for me, and arranged for me to be cared for at a nursing home about 40 miles south from where I was living.
After chemo, my insurance company rep had me placed in an assisted living facility about 5 miles north. I am still one of the youngest people here (I'll be 53 next month), but there is a bit more autonomy here. I was hoping once I got into a different place that I could take my kitty back, but they don't allow pets here, and it's too small a room for her anyway. But she is living with a nice lady a few blocks away who brings her for visits.
Although I will never be cured, or even in remission, the cancer is "stable" and I am trying to learn to walk again. I am not too interested in the activities here, but I did make friends with a few of the other residents. I miss walking on my own and driving. And of course I miss my beloved pet something awful.
Posted this here instead of the cancer group as it was more about being disabled than having cancer. I hope that was ok.

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sounds pretty stable Backwoodsrider Oct 2015 #1
Thanks much BuelahWitch Oct 2015 #3
I had Dad in a nursing 840high Oct 2015 #2
I'm sure your Dad enjoyed it immensely. BuelahWitch Oct 2015 #4
... shenmue Oct 2015 #5
.. BuelahWitch Oct 2015 #6
Love you! n/t Admiral Loinpresser Oct 2015 #7
Love you too! n/t BuelahWitch Oct 2015 #9
BeulahWitch, do you have to re-register to vote at your new location? If so, have you? NBachers Oct 2015 #8
To answer your first question, yes and no BuelahWitch Oct 2015 #10
What beautiful performance art that is! My heart really responds to this one- "Christmas is a Time" NBachers Oct 2015 #15
Yes, such a beautiful song! n/t BuelahWitch Oct 2015 #17
*** NCarolinawoman Oct 2015 #11
Thank you! BuelahWitch Oct 2015 #13
Sending a big hug.. haikugal Oct 2015 #12
.. BuelahWitch Oct 2015 #14
Vibes and wishes to you from out here in California! villager Oct 2015 #16
I will! n/t BuelahWitch Oct 2015 #20
someone is always here on DU for you, BeulahWitch Skittles Oct 2015 #18
Thanks! BuelahWitch Oct 2015 #19
well of course it's whatever is right for each person Skittles Oct 2015 #23
So sorry you are going through this. You have a wonderfully positive attitude Live and Learn Oct 2015 #21
There are some days zalinda Oct 2015 #24
I think maybe you are right. She really seemed to enjoy Live and Learn Oct 2015 #25
The CNAs who worked with her must have loved your grandma BuelahWitch Oct 2015 #26
I Had No Idea... WillyT Oct 2015 #22
.. BuelahWitch Oct 2015 #27
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