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BobsYourUncle

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33. Born and raised a Roman Catholic...

Tue Jun 24, 2025, 08:42 AM

Tuesday

In my early thirties, I finally came out to myself. During an early summer Sunday Mass as the priest droned on I heard him speaking about sin and confession and forgiveness. His ‘lesson’ was you sin-confess-receive absolution-do penance…and live the rest of your life bearing the guilt of your sin. I still consider that last part heretical (against church teachings).

I realized that I had been taught to hate myself as a gay man. I hate that they made my life hell for as long as I let them.

I am a recovered catholic. Call me an atheist or a humanist…there is no religion for me.

Do no harm.

Thanks Dunc.

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