Bereavement

lostnfound

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11. When I lost my mother I was 24 and one thought transformed my grief

Sun Sep 16, 2018, 11:41 AM

Sep 2018

It occurred to me that all that pain I felt from losing her was actually a sure sign of some kind of massive, beautiful gratitude.
Because she was such an awesome kindhearted brave person. I wouldn’t have felt such loss, had I not been blessed with such a sweet soul as a mother. Every bit of pain I felt then was our bond, was an HONOR she had earned. It was an honor to carry her memory forward. It was the realization of such a great blessing. It felt like pain, but it was actually bold, shining gratitude.

Grief rips us open, makes room in our hearts for the whole of a person to take up their permanent residence there. You’ll carry her with you now.

And I’m sure you were a great comfort to her.

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My mom passed away last night... [View all] cynatnite Sep 2018 OP

Om Mani Padme Hum WhiteTara Sep 2018 #1

My condolences left-of-center2012 Sep 2018 #2

cynatnite, I am so sorry for your loss. badhair77 Sep 2018 #3

You are worn out and grieving. My condolences. Take some time for you when you are ready. CurtEastPoint Sep 2018 #4

It's OK to feel that way. And it does take time... TreasonousBastard Sep 2018 #5

I wish there were an easy way to get thru loss and grief. dixiegrrrrl Sep 2018 #6

Sad for your loss. I'd never dream to give advice about grief. IADEMO2004 Sep 2018 #7

The cycles of life.. Permanut Sep 2018 #8

Oh no. So, so sorry, Dear cynatnite. Laffy Kat Sep 2018 #9

I'm glad to see you here, my dear cynatnite... CaliforniaPeggy Sep 2018 #10

When I lost my mother I was 24 and one thought transformed my grief lostnfound Sep 2018 #11

This is beautiful easttexaslefty Sep 2018 #14

I am sorry for your loss Gothmog Sep 2018 #12

i'm so sorry orleans Sep 2018 #13

I lost my mother this August Farmer-Rick Nov 2018 #15

My sister thought I would feel relief... cynatnite Nov 2018 #16

💔 Stellar Dec 2018 #17

I was not a regular on this group when you posted this originally. susanna Apr 2019 #18