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In reply to the discussion: Sudden death of my brother, 2 months after my father died of pancreatic cancer [View all]
TheBlackAdder
(29,812 posts)34. That was worse than I thought.
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Now I feel bad for speculating, when there were so many factors involved.
If that were me, I would distance myself as well. I would also lean on a psychologist for advice on handling it, as they see these things all of the time and have the toolkits for processing and handling such matters. I don't know if you or your sister sought one out, and I don't want to pry.
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Sudden death of my brother, 2 months after my father died of pancreatic cancer [View all]
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
OP
My aunt walk away from me two decades ago because of something I said, that I cannot believe
LizBeth
Jan 2021
#4
I'm sorry for your loss and that you had to deal with that difficult decision
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#10
Oh my God, Dark n Stormy Knight! I am so very sorry for the loss of your brother and father!
LaMouffette
Jan 2021
#7
No need to apologize! I was brought up to be Catholic, too, but it just didn't "take."
LaMouffette
Jan 2021
#24
Family... they'll drive you crazy! The widow's behavior was wrong on every imaginable level. The
Karadeniz
Jan 2021
#12
Thank you, Karadeniz. In many ways you and I are on the same page about all this.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#20
Your mother might provide the motivation for the whole clan to get together amicably... sounds
Karadeniz
Jan 2021
#23
It's funny you should say that, because that's not at all how her daughters see her.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#35
Well, you know how to pick'em! I really don't know why some people have children if they don't want
Karadeniz
Jan 2021
#57
Faux pas, thank you for your kind reply. I too was the "odd one out" all though my life,
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#22
Reading this, and your brother's outreach on Christmas Eve impresses to me that your Sister-On-Law
TheBlackAdder
Jan 2021
#21
Adder, I love that you are thinking deeply about the family dynamics
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#26
I have spent more money on therapists in my life than I care to recall.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#39
Catwoman, thank you for sharing your experience and for your kind and suportive words.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#29
Boundaries, clarity and self compassion. If you can get yourself to focus, the meditation could be
JudyM
Jan 2021
#56
Sorry for your loss and that you are going through this. You have a right to your feelings.
58Sunliner
Jan 2021
#37
Thank you. I know that that means I also have to understand that others have that same right.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#40
I am so sorry that you lost your father and brother so tragically and in such a short
Tanuki
Jan 2021
#47
In case anyone sees this, I checked in here, but then realized it's not a good idea at the moment.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Jan 2021
#58