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Bereavement

cksmithy

(476 posts) Mon Feb 2, 2026, 05:53 PM Feb 2

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My older sister died 20 years ago today. [View all]

Even though she was only four years older than me, she was more like my mother than my our real mother. She was my friend, my confident and always had time to talk to me. She had a very rough childhood (we both did), but she could make me laugh and we could cry together. I miss her so much. We saw The Beatles four times, twice in one day. She was only 59 when she died, complications from her MS medications. When new medications are available and they talk about side effects, including death, it is true. Her doctors said her brain cancer was directly related to her meds.

I just wanted to honor her. I have never started a discussion, always respond to other member's post, but my sister was a wonderful person who I miss and love everyday.

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My older sister died 20 years ago today. [View all] cksmithy Feb 2 OP

Deepest condolences. SheltieLover Feb 2 #1

Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2 #8

Sending hugs on this sad anniversary date. May the livetohike Feb 2 #2

Thank you cksmithy Feb 2 #9

Wonderful tribute, thanks.. Permanut Feb 2 #3

Thank you. I always think of my sister, especially when I hear Twist and Shout sung by the Beatles. cksmithy Feb 2 #10

That's good for a smile every time. Permanut Feb 2 #34

You have honored your sister's memory very well. brer cat Feb 2 #4

Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2 #11

I hear you KT2000 Feb 2 #5

Yes we were. cksmithy Feb 2 #7

"I just wanted to honor her." And so you have. 3catwoman3 Feb 2 #6

Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2 #12

Thank you for sharing this. It means so much delisen Feb 2 #13

Thank you, she did bring warmth to me. I light a candle for her every year, a little warmth. cksmithy Feb 2 #14

Thank you for this testimonial, cksmithy. calimary Feb 2 #15

Thank you. She is definitely frolicking, she took her tap shoes with her. cksmithy Feb 2 #27

Condolences. Your post was a lovely tribute and I believe your sister is smiling. Best. c-rational Feb 2 #16

Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2 #23

I am sorry for your loss. stage left Feb 2 #17

Thank you. Yes she was. Second born, first daughter, she was a real mom to me and my three younger siblings. cksmithy Feb 2 #24

I am so so sorry irisblue Feb 2 #18

Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2 #25

So sorry IbogaProject Feb 2 #19

Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2 #26

To beloved sisters! Wild blueberry Feb 2 #20

Thank you. Her memory is a blessing I keep close to my heart. cksmithy Feb 2 #28

Your beloved sister Clouds Passing Feb 2 #21

Thank you. I light a candle for her every year too. cksmithy Feb 2 #29

Reminded me of my older sister Jarqui Feb 2 #22

Thank you. I don't think anybody could hear the Beatles at a Beatles concert, but it was fun and a wonderful memory. cksmithy Feb 2 #30

I am sorry for your loss, but know, she'll always be with you, in heart and spirit. Fla Dem Feb 2 #31

Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2 #33

You were blessed to have a wonderful sister Grim Chieftain Feb 2 #32

Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2 #35

Sending you hugs and warm thoughts ❤️ MLAA Feb 2 #36

Thank you. cksmithy Feb 3 #43

I am sorry for your loss. It sounds as if she was a lovely big sister. The fact LoisB Feb 2 #37

Dear cksmithy, I am so sorry for your loss. MIButterfly Feb 2 #38

Thank you. cksmithy Feb 3 #44

That is a beautiful tribute DeeDeeNY Feb 2 #39

Thank you. cksmithy Feb 3 #45

You were very lucky to have such a sister. She sounds amazing. applegrove Feb 2 #40

Thank you. cksmithy Feb 3 #46

Thank you Dear_Prudence Feb 2 #41

Thank you. cksmithy Feb 3 #47

Really beautiful tribute to your sister JudyM Feb 3 #42

Thank you. cksmithy Feb 3 #48

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