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stopdiggin

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100. you're correct (even if perhaps preaching to the wrong congregation)

Wed May 13, 2026, 01:30 AM

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because some of this stuff, indeed - just becomes a little bit silly.
(and we DO lose points - and terrain - when we become impossible - or, perhaps better put, just extremely annoying and difficult - to talk to.)

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Stop saying "single mothers" [View all] CousinIT May 11 OP

Excellent point. 3catwoman3 May 11 #1

Single moms are single for all sorts of reasons, and just because she's a "single mom" doesn't mean the dad isn't in the WhiskeyGrinder May 11 #2

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pointing out sexism doesn't mean you "hate men" Skittles May 11 #6

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LOL Skittles May 11 #11

Post removed Post removed May 12 #13

Fox News, Newsmax, et al, will never be able to teach them subtlety, will they? Aristus May 12 #43

they can't help themselves Skittles May 12 #46

Too bad they bounced before you could kick their asses! Aristus May 12 #49

I do enjoy taunting some of them Skittles May 12 #52

It's referring to absentee fathers. Quiet Em May 12 #15

THIS. Exactly. n/t CousinIT May 12 #33

It still centers the male role or lack there of. LuvLoogie May 12 #79

Single mother, single father, single parent in my understanding has always been meant as the sole parent Quiet Em May 12 #12

I don't see it that way Skittles May 12 #27

My father - a Dad, Grandpa and Great-Grandpa - used to ask a "drop-dead question".... Bluejeans May 11 #3

divorced dads are only a "problem" if they don't help to support their child Skittles May 11 #5

I can't un-alert this post. silverweb May 12 #73

HEH Skittles May 12 #80

I'm glad for that! silverweb Wednesday #111

This is akin to saying "bastard child" Seinan Sensei May 11 #7

or "illegitimate" Skittles May 11 #9

Doesn't this assume the father had a choice? Renew Deal May 11 #8

In those cases, the single parent is referred to as a "widow" or "widower", not a "single mother" CousinIT May 12 #29

A "widow" doesn't describe a person with a child. Renew Deal May 12 #34

actually, no. 'single mother' is a broad and encompassing term stopdiggin Wednesday #101

Damn straight!!! calimary May 12 #14

Are you claiming that every time there is a single mother, it is because a man is to blame? Doodley May 12 #81

No. calimary May 12 #96

As of 2024-2025, there are approximately 3.3 million to 7.4 million families with a single father in the U.S. Doodley May 12 #97

As of 2024-2025, there are approximately 3.3 million to 7.4 million families with a single father in the U.S. Doodley May 12 #98

Good to know! calimary May 12 #99

Absolutely not. NH Ethylene May 12 #16

Exactly. The malevolent MAGA minded use B.See Thursday #112

Exactly. An achievement to be proud of. NH Ethylene Thursday #113

if the term 'single mother' is shallow, 'targeting' and singularly undescriptive ... stopdiggin May 12 #17

absentee was the key word. If a parent, a Mom or Dad is absentee Quiet Em May 12 #18

how about a person that is serving in the military stopdiggin May 12 #23

If both parents are active and not absentee in their children's lives Quiet Em May 12 #24

assumptions - accompanied by narrowing and restricted definition .... stopdiggin May 12 #25

But the OP headline and text of the meme are making no such distinctions AZJonnie May 12 #28

I am a single father BeneteauBum May 12 #19

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I agree. BeneteauBum May 12 #56

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Denying the alcoholism and losing custody was a big wake up call. BeneteauBum May 12 #63

And if the father died? And if the father isn't the one responsible for the breakup in the relationship? This looks Doodley May 12 #20

If the father died, she's called a "widow", not a single mother. But you know that. n/t CousinIT May 12 #30

Okay so my mother wasn't a single parent after all. Glad you put me straight. Doodley May 12 #36

She was widowed, she wasn't single obamanut2012 May 12 #40

My mother didn't want to go round telling people she was a widow. It isn't for you or Doodley May 12 #83

What if she wasn't married to him ? JI7 May 12 #55

The label police will decide what she should be called. Doodley May 12 #85

No, she is called both widow AND single mother. Its common lexicon for all the situations. FascismIsDeath May 12 #84

Thank you for saying that. This fixation on labels is absurd. Doodley May 12 #88

It isn't "man hating" -- just stop obamanut2012 May 12 #39

. Scrivener7 May 12 #78

Sometimes, single women are mothers by choice. Wouldn't they indeed be "single mothers?" littlemissmartypants May 12 #21

Yes, they are single mothers by choice Quiet Em May 12 #22

Exactly. Single mothers (even if it's a choice) are looked upon with derision. CousinIT May 12 #31

Good point PatSeg May 12 #47

Because somebody somewhere will be offended. Doodley May 12 #38

Who will be offended? obamanut2012 May 12 #41

Would you be offended? Doodley May 12 #89

Sometimes they're single because they're not married...like everybody else who's single...lol. Iggo Wednesday #106

Exactly. As opposed to... littlemissmartypants Wednesday #107

Wowzer. We live in an anti-woman, slut-and responsibility-shaming Abolishinist May 12 #26

We do... CousinIT May 12 #32

This kind of stuff is definitely a big reason that people get turned off from our side. FascismIsDeath May 12 #87

The outrage over labels is one reason we lose elections. Doodley May 12 #90

I do think people quinteroon May 12 #35

Agreed. And a man bringing up children on his own is also a single parent. Doodley May 12 #37

Woman, not female obamanut2012 May 12 #42

Excuse me? quinteroon May 12 #45

How ever hard we try, there's always somebody who will be offended. Doodley May 12 #91

Men who fear women frequently use the word "female" which is not so scary to them as "woman.". hunter May 12 #64

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Is the word "male" on the banned list too? Doodley May 12 #93

you're correct (even if perhaps preaching to the wrong congregation) stopdiggin Wednesday #100

This thread did not disapoint... radicalleft May 12 #44

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There is no 'single' One is either a mother or not. One is a father or not. BUT Republicans LOVE the Blame Game. dave99 May 12 #48

Hear, hear! ZDU May 12 #51

And yet "single mother" is accurate regardless of the reason they are raising a child or children alone. Jedi Guy May 12 #53

I'm glad to read your post Sparkly May 12 #59

Thank you for saying so. This is like a page out of 1984. Doodley May 12 #94

I think it's the insinuation of "shame" that needs to change ... Sparkly May 12 #54

I was a single teen mom, and I wouldn't have wanted my daughter's status to be linked to her very absentee (in our case) deurbano May 12 #75

How about Single Parent??????? NC popsdenver May 12 #57

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Isn't the father also a single father??? Unrepentant Fenian May 12 #61

There is nothing wrong with the term. It is not seen as negative JI7 May 12 #62

Truly, I have never heard anyone shame single mothers. CozyMystery May 12 #65

Thank you, CousinIT, for standing up for women, and being willing to bring up challenges to the status quo. love_katz May 12 #68

Why does mom have a colostomy bag that she's wearing outside her Maru Kitteh May 12 #69

I was wondering what that was. Now I have to wonder why it's in the illustration... betsuni May 12 #76

I should've scrolled down Sympthsical Wednesday #103

Because the image is most likely AI slop. littlemissmartypants Wednesday #109

So I can't say "single mother" anymore or flvegan May 12 #70

"woman who made good post-child decision and rid her life of that male scum" Abolishinist May 12 #86

You illustrate the absurdity perfectly! And how are the children supposed to feel with those labels? Doodley May 12 #95

I never thought of the term as sexist, anti-woman, or slut before this thread. nt Gore1FL May 12 #71

I still don't think it is n/t Polybius May 12 #72

They are still "single mothers." They aren't married to the dad and they have children. valleyrogue May 12 #74

Right on! MLAA May 12 #77

There is not one microscopic drop of sexism, demonization or anything anti-woman about the term "single mother". FascismIsDeath May 12 #82

Thank you, very well said. Abolishinist May 12 #92

This feels like building a useless gate Sympthsical Wednesday #102

I have no doubt that at this very moment a cogent response Abolishinist Wednesday #110

Um, no. Mike Niendorff Wednesday #104

There's nothing wrong with "single mothers." Iggo Wednesday #105

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"Single Mother" Is Demonstrable. The Role Of the Sire Is Not So Obvious..... ColoringFool Saturday #114

I've always considered "single mothers" to be Rock Stars, never a term of derision krawhitham Saturday #115